Earlier, several ladies asked me “Why do guys cheat?” I asked one of them what’s her definition of cheating and she said “Uh sleeping with another person that’s not your spouse”
The question doesn’t make sense to me because I feel like cheating goes both ways. I’ll only answer the question because I’m a guy and I’ve cheated before and also been around guys that have cheated on their girlfriends before. There’s two ways I see why a guy would cheat on their spouse.
Some guys cheat on purpose because they like the feeling of hurting people and they don’t they really care. Some guys are just sexually attractive to a lot of females and have a difficult time controlling it. Its very hard to understand why, that even us guys usually cant explain why it’s like that. Some guys just like the fun of it because they feel like it’s cool to brag about the amount of “bodies” they have.
If i’m not wrong, it’s a proven fact that women mature much faster than man. With that been said, i believe guys cheat on their spouses because 9 out of 10 times, they’re not mature or disciplined enough to control the way he thinks and act. Sometimes it is because they’re insecure about the relationship they’re in or there’s something off about the relationship they’re in and unsure off, so instead of breaking up with their spouse, they end up staying around hoping they don’t get caught because they’re scared to hurt the woman’s feelings or start any drama.
The other type of cheating is very strange because in this type of cheating, it happens that the guy actually cares and don’t want to lose the woman. In most of these cases, there’s something about other women that attracts him that he feels like lacks in his spouse so he goes out there to get it. I’m not saying it’s okay for him to do that but that’s the truth. In these cases if you ask the guy why he cheated his answer is “I don’t know” and 9 out 10 times he’s telling the truth, HE DON’T KNOW!! “I don’t like her, I only love you, I don’t know why i cheated on you”, he’s telling the truth. Situation’s like this are likely to be the one’s where the lady happen’s to be too over-controlling or you both happen to have different personalities. Sometimes there’s a relationship where the guy is the type to go out and drink and have fun while his spouse is the complete opposite of him. Obviously he’s going to run into a woman who fit’s his personality and like being around her more because you cant relate to what he likes to do best. At the same time, he doesn’t want to lose his spouse because she’s everything he wants in the near future as far as her having the mature personality that is needed in most marriage. But once again if you ask a guy why do they cheat on their spouse but claims they love and care for you, their answer will be “I don’t know, but i really love and care for you”. He’s telling the truth. I’m not saying to change for him but i don’t see nothing wrong with getting out of your comfort zone for your man once in awhile if you really care for him and your relationship because most of the times, guys are willing to get out of their comfort zones to please a woman. With that being said, sometimes women should look theirselves and try to figure out what they’re doing or not doing to please their man. Then again, NOT all MEN ARE THE SAME
I hope this answer’s the young lady’s question if she reads this 🙂