The other day a friend of mine told me about a date she went on with a guy she met from school. During our conversation, she revealed that she had a problem with paying for a portion of bill, on their first date. As a result, she felt like the guy was not a gentleman.
My thoughts on this were simple. A date is a mutual agreement between two people to attend an outing. With that being said, a female shouldn’t agree to go on a date with a guy with intentions of not paying or contributing to the bill. Unless its agreed by both parties prior to the date that one specific person is handling the cost of it, or if the guy willingly decides to take care of the entire bill whilst on date. Going on a date with intentions of “not paying” shows how cheap or broke the female actually is.
Personally, I don’t mind paying the entire bill on the first date. My only concern is how do I know if she’s only on a date with me because I’m paying for everything? At the end of the day, I’m not trying to get taken advantage of. These are some of the things that go through the minds of guys. When certain females are asked out, their response is, “Are you paying”. Even if I did plan on it, that response alone kills the whole vibe.
With that being said, I don’t think the guy was wrong for letting my female friend pay a portion of the bill on their first date. He may have his own personal reasons why he decided not to cover the entire bill. Therefore, females… you probably should not go on dates with the “intentions” of not paying‼️