Paying on first Date

The other day a friend of mine told me about a date she went on with a guy she met from school. During  our conversation, she revealed that she had a problem with paying for a portion of bill, on their first date. As a result, she felt like the guy was not a gentleman.

My thoughts on this were simple. A date is a mutual agreement between two people to attend an outing. With that being said, a female shouldn’t agree to go on a date with a guy with intentions of not paying or contributing to the bill. Unless its agreed by both parties prior to the date that one specific person is handling the cost of it, or if the guy willingly decides to take care of the entire bill whilst on date. Going on a date with intentions of “not paying” shows how cheap or broke the female actually is.

Personally, I don’t mind paying the entire bill on the first date. My only concern is how do I know if she’s only on a date with me because I’m paying for everything? At the end of the day, I’m not trying to get taken advantage of. These are some of the things that go through the minds of guys. When certain females are asked out, their response is, “Are you paying”. Even if I did plan on it, that response alone kills the whole vibe.

With that being said, I don’t think the guy was wrong for letting my female friend pay a portion of the bill on their first date. He may have his own personal reasons why he decided not to cover the entire bill. Therefore, females… you probably should not go on dates with the “intentions” of not paying‼️


4 thoughts on “Paying on first Date

  1. If you’re asking me on a date, especially a first one, do not ask me to pay for crap. YOU asked ME. It does not matter that we came to a mutual agreement to attend the outing because you initiated the entire idea. If you don’t have the money, don’t bring up the idea. Your friend is completely right for finding him rude. Since he wanted to be cheap, he should’ve went somewhere that didn’t require spending any money.. probably would’ve asked her to put some gas in his car too lmao

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    1. Lol you are some how right but overall wrong. If I’m asking you out on a date, I want you to accept it with the interest of getting to know me not just because it’s free for you. Some girls accepts dates just because they know they don’t have to pay for sh*t, knowing damn well they’re not interested in the guy but will accept the free date anyway. If a girl attends a second date with a guy after being offered to pay the first date or ended up paying on the first date, that means she was interested in the guy.


  2. Personally, I don’t think any female should always have the mindset that a guy is going to pay. As a woman, for me, I take pride in having my own and being able to at least pay for a meal myself lol. If I’m on a first date I usually start getting my wallet out and offer to split the bill. If he says it’s cool and pays for it himself, I don’t mind. If we split the bill, I don’t mind. Some girls just have an immature mindset. I’m grown I can provide for myself and damn sure buy my own food. A man is not a free meal card. I just think it’s really not that deep on who pays, especially on the first date, y’all don’t even know each other yet.

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