Should I move on? 

I went to the gas station the other day to grab something to drink. As I walked out after paying, the store attendant, who appeared to be in his mid 30s, yelled out to me “Do you mind if I ask you something?”

My initial thought was that he was going to accuse me of stealing, but his facial expression said otherwise. As he walked towards me he said, “I want to ask your opinion about how my ex girlfriend is acting towards me. Do you have time?” I nodded.  He started explaining, “My ex and I broke up a while back and I’ve been trying to work things out with her, but her attitude makes me question if she actually wants me back or not”.

I then asked the guy to  further explain how exactly she was treating him when he tried to work things out.

“She tells me she still loves me and misses me but when I try to get her back into my life, she gives me all the excuses in the world. Sometimes she disappears for days and avoids conversation. She claims that she has met a couple guys after we broke up, but she’s not with anyone. Anytime her friends tell her I’m dealing with another women, she pops up back into my life, and tells me how much she loves me and wants to be with me. What do you think is going on?”

My message to him was very simple, “move on with your life”. Why? Because from the looks of things, I strongly believe that she doesn’t want to be with him but at the same time, she doesn’t want to loose him. If she wanted to be with him, she would’ve put in as much effort as he was. She is trying to test the waters out with other possible options until she finds the perfect fit for herself. Until then, she won’t allow any other woman to attempt to take her spot; just in case she doesn’t find that person she’s looking for. This is why she comes back around whenever she suspects that he’s involved with other women. I told him, “The last thing she wants is for another female to make you happy”.


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